Monday, February 16, 2009

Roses are Red...

Well another Valentine's Day has been and gone.   *Kath waves*

This is the first Valentine's Day since I have been conscious of the concept of Valentine's Day that I haven't been totally depressed.  And it's been a single Valentine's Day for me.  Not to mention the fact that I stayed home all day and didn't really do anything.

It goes to show just how much more at peace with myself I am these days.  I used to measure my self worth by my status or activity on Valentine's Day.  "I'm so pathetic, I'm single on Valentine's Day."  Or "Why doesn't he show me he loves me more?  I must be horrible."  But this year I didn't feel that my being single and spending the day at home reflected at all on who I am.  It was nice to send a few pretty things to friends on Facebook, but otherwise, it didn't really affect me much at all.

One thing I did notice though, was the number of people, and admittedly, almost exclusively women, complaining that their Valentine's Day was crap because their significant other didn't do enough for them on the day.  Didn't acknowledge the day enough, wasn't romantic enough.

Now don't get me wrong, but isn't Valentine's Day a celebration and appreciation of love?  Or is it an excuse to get the best goodies you can?  Or the most elaborate gestures you can?

Shouldn't it be about celebrating and appreciating that you HAVE someone to love in your life, who loves you?  Shouldn't it be an opportunity to take some time out and spend time together?  If you're in it for the gestures and the goodies... do you really love that person?

I'm just askin' is all.


Robin said...

I love your sentiments. And the thought that Valentine's is a celebration of love, of which romantic love is only a small part (there is so much love on this earth!), has always made it a good day, I believe, single or in a relationship.

It's funny- the day is named after St. Valentine, who was a very loving man, a priest.... so single himself. :) And everyone feels bad if they are single. But they shouldn't! There is still so much love to celebrate. :)

Nerd of the Library said...

oh man i couldn't agree more. i think valentine's day is super special and should be celebrated. my friend's bf made her a candlelit dinner with flowers, handmade her a jewellery box and put a silver bracelet in it for her. i think that was very nice of him... and considering i set those 2 up, i was pleased that he did that for her.

Sleepydumpling said...

Umm... You're kind of missing the point Nerd, it's not about the gifts and stuff on Valentine's day. I actually said "Valentine's Day shouldn't be about how big the gestures are or what stuff you get"...

It should be about spending time together and appreciating that you're coupled up!

Felicity said...

I so don't get the point of people who go OTT on Valentines Day. This year I made @sg77 breakfast in bed (I normally cook breakfast on the weekend, so no bigge) and for dinner he took me to a dinky hole-in-the-wall Italian place we regularly go too. The only change was he took some Bella champers for me.

Simple things show love much more than all the OTT things.


Nerd of the Library said...

yeah, i meant that it was good to see them celebrate how much they like each other... and that they went to a big length to celebrate it in a non-pretentious way. like, i think what they did was very customized to them as a couple - you know, showed how gaagaa they are for each other... instead of OTT things, like red roses and chocolates and stuff.