After a conversation I saw recently on Twitter by the lovely Miss_Chicken, I thought I would talk a bit today about hate and hatred.
Friday, September 25, 2009
Monday, September 21, 2009
Tonight I want to talk a bit about self identity, self esteem and confidence. It ties into my previous post on depression and anxiety a bit, in that depression and anxiety have always fed my low self esteem and lack of confidence, and now that I am finding that I can have these things while still battling depression and anxiety, I want to share a bit with others my own experiences and lessons, and some things I have come to believe.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
I was going to write a post on Fat Heffalump about depression, but I've decided to broaden the topic a bit and post it here, because I'd like to talk to everyone about depression, not just my fellow fats.
- Get up
- Brush your teeth.
- Dress (with makeup)
- Wear sensible shoes.
- Eat breakfast
- Go to work, try to do repetitive "automatic" work (oh my databases and record keeping do well when I'm depressed, it's easy, it's formulaic and I can just get into it without having to tax my poor depressed brain.
- Eat lunch.
- Go outside at lunchtime.
- Remember your tea (I keep peppermint and chamomile tea special for when I'm depressed, it does help)
- DO NOT SKIP DINNER.
- Read or watch DVD's that make you feel good.
- Go to bed by 9.30pm at the latest.
Monday, September 14, 2009
A couple of days ago I was having a conversation with a friend about my boss and why I admire her, and I said something about "She reminds me of why I am a librarian and am passionate about libraries." He asked me exactly why I am a librarian and as I thought of my answer, I decided that perhaps a blog post could come of that.
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Wednesday, September 09, 2009
- Think about it. Sleep on it. Make sure you are really comfortable with the design you are getting. The longer you've thought about it and talked about it, the more perfect it will sit with you.
- A cheap tattooist will give you a cheap tattoo. Cheap = nasty.
- Ask people who have tattoos that you admire where they got their work done. You'll notice the same name come up on the stuff you really like again and again. Go to that tattooist.
- ANY good tattoo artist has his/her name as their best guarantee. They plug their name relentlessly and a quick Google search will bring up their work and reviews from their customers. We tattooed not only like to talk about our tatts, but we love to plug our tattoo artists too.
- If a tattooist has books or walls with stuff that you can walk up and say "I'll have that one please" - you're going to the wrong tattooist. Quality tattoo artists do not do "catalogue" work. Every piece is original for each customer. They may have lots of reference books to give them starting points and help you pick a look or style you want, but that's different to catalogues.
- Never choose a tattoo while inebriated in any form. You WILL regret it.
- Remember that tattoos spread and thicken with age. This means that anything too detailed will end up blobby.
- A good tattoo artist will guide you in the design, fit it to the contours of your body and tell you if something isn't going to work long term.
- Take reference material. Google image search the things you want done, print out a whole bunch IN COLOUR and take them with you.
- Check out the tattoo shop before you get your work done. Does it smell like a hospital? Bingo, that's what you want. You want to smell disinfectant, see lots of rubber gloves and every thing they use on you should be sterile. Only the very best of tattooists can work "remotely" to high quality, so beware of getting work done outside of tattoo shops themselves.
- Are you Celtic? No? Then don't get a Celtic tattoo, you'll only look like a dick. Same goes for Maori/Pacific/Polynesian/Native American designs.
- Ladies, please don't get a fairy.
- Getting genitalia tattooed on yourself is not classy.
- Nor is getting your genitalia tattooed itself.
- Get some good quality tattoo magazines. I love Post-Modern Ink.
- If the tattooist is rude, dismissive or makes you feel stupid, then they are not the tattooist for you.
- Any tattoo artist worth their salt will provide you with the artwork BEFORE you get anything done to you. They'll ask you to approve it before they go any further. If you want to change something, say so straight away.
- Be aware that certain tattoos don't go on certain parts of the body, and that tattoos need to face a particular way. A good tattooist will tell you this, and explain why he/she wants to mirror image a tattoo, or change the design a bit. It's for your own good!
- If you have made a mistake with a past tattoo, and you want a cover up, be aware that whatever you get to cover it has to be darker and heavier than the existing tattoo. Therefore if you have a big black tribal piece and you decide you hate it... there ain't much you can cover that sucker with.
- Don't get what everyone else is getting. Cos you'll end up hating it in a year or two. Get something that means something to YOU and that isn't a fad or trend.
Sunday, September 06, 2009
I think it's time for some fun on this blog. Something to give the haterz a rest.